Trouble

Damn, so I just told my dude that I kissed my ex dude. My ex dude wants me bad but I'm afraid of hurting my current dude. My dude is slippin hard and when I told him the news. it ssemed as if he didn't give a damn, so now my ex dude is making plans for us in his future. I like my ex dude a lot but I'm just so confused about what to do in general. My ex dude is way to bomb, even for me to handle, and my dude was like that at first, then he just stopped. He stopped everything, I only see him once a week now, and guess where?! At church... It's a mad shame what can happen in so little time, I just need some advice, help a sistah out... :(